Let’s be honest, talking dirty can feel weird. You want to sound confident and sexy… but instead, it comes out awkward, forced, or like you’re reading lines from a dodgy soap opera. If that sounds familiar, you’re in good company. Most of us weren’t exactly taught how to talk about sex—never mind how to get vocal in the heat of the moment.

At The Honey Room, your favourite adult toy shop, we get it. Confidence in the bedroom doesn’t always come naturally. But it can be learned—and yes, even talking dirty can become something you look forward to.

Why Do We Even Talk Dirty?

It’s not about putting on a performance or trying to be someone you’re not. Dirty talk is a way of connecting. It’s about telling your partner how they make you feel, what you want, or what you wish they were doing. It’s fun, flirty, and intimate, and when done right, it builds trust and sparks excitement like nothing else.

But let’s not sugar-coat it: it takes practice to feel natural. Especially if you’re used to being quiet or self-conscious in bed.

That’s why we’re here, to help you ease into it, without the cringe.

Start with What Feels Natural

You don’t need to dive into raunchy scripts or complicated fantasies. Just start with what feels authentic. Compliment your partner. React to their touch. Say things like:

• “You feel so good.”
  
• “I love the way you do that.”
  
• “I want you. Right now.”
  

These simple sentences pack a punch. You’re not overthinking it—you’re just speaking your truth.

Even a moan or whisper can be powerful. It doesn’t always have to be words. Let your voice reflect how you feel in the moment.

The more you say what you like, the easier it becomes. You’re not trying to be someone else. You’re just amplifying your own desire.

Practise When You’re Alone 

This might sound silly, but hear us out—practising dirty talk alone is a game-changer. Try saying things out loud when you’re in the shower or driving. It doesn’t have to be a whole monologue. Just a few sentences you’d love to say during sex.

It helps to hear yourself say sexy things without pressure. That way, when the moment comes, you’re not stumbling over your words.

Reading erotica or listening to sexy audio stories can also help build your vocabulary and comfort level. Apps like Ferly offer inclusive, sensual audio that’s designed to help people explore sexuality in a way that feels safe and empowering.

Talk About it First

If you’re in a relationship, don’t skip this step. Let your partner know you’re interested in talking dirty. It can be as simple as saying, “I’d love to try talking dirty with you, but I’m a bit nervous, what do you think?”

Chances are, they’ll be intrigued. And when you both agree to explore together, it removes that fear of being judged or getting it ‘wrong’.

Think of it as an adventure. You’re not aiming for perfection, you’re creating space to play, laugh, and try new things together. Even if you both end up giggling through it, that shared vulnerability is pretty sexy in itself.

It’s Okay to Laugh (No, Really)

Let’s get one thing clear: talking dirty might feel awkward at first—and that’s okay. You might blush, say something weird, or crack up halfway through. That doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’re human.

Laughter is part of intimacy. So is fumbling. It shows you’re trying, and more importantly, that you trust each other enough to be real.

So the next time you trip over your words or say something that makes you both laugh, don’t backtrack. Own it. Enjoy it. Let it bring you closer.

Use Toys to Set the Mood

Sometimes, you don’t need to say much at all. A blindfold, a feather, or a beautifully designed toy can do the talking for you. You can say, “Lie down—I want to try something on you,” and let your actions speak.

At The Honey Room, your trusted adult toy shop, we offer luxury toys that make exploring your desires feel less intimidating and more exciting. Whether you’re introducing a partner to something new or using toys as a playful prompt for dirty talk, they’re an easy way to build confidence.

And if you’re feeling nervous, a toy can shift the focus off your words and onto the shared experience.

Find Your Own Style

There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to talking dirty. Some people are more dominant. Some are soft and romantic. Others like a bit of banter and humour.

The trick is to find your voice—and trust that it’s enough.

You might start with just a few phrases that you know make you feel good. Maybe you whisper what you want in their ear. Maybe you tease them throughout the day via cheeky texts. It all counts. It’s all valid.

And when something works? Keep it. Build from there.

If it doesn’t? That’s okay too. This isn’t a test. It’s a playground.

A Final Word

Learning how to talk dirty without feeling awkward is like learning a new language—it takes time, but once you get the hang of it, it opens up a whole new world of pleasure and connection.

The most important thing is to start from a place of honesty. Be curious. Be playful. And give yourself permission to enjoy the process.If you’re ready to explore this side of yourself, start small. Try a phrase tonight. Try it again tomorrow. And when you want a little extra inspiration, you know where to find us—your go-to adult toy shop in South Africa.

Talking dirty is just one way to deepen intimacy and explore your desires. Whether you’re experimenting solo or with a partner, we’re an adult toy shop here to support your pleasure journey. Visit honeyroom.co.za to discover elegant, luxury toys designed for people who want more than just the basics.